What you expect, it’s what you get

Hello again everyone, from a very snowy Bucharest.

The title of today’s article is taken from a book I’m just reading it these days. I’ve resonated very well with this idea, that’s why I thought it could be a good reminder for all of us. What I’ve found out to be very intriguing about this saying it’s precisely the fact that, in general, we are not aware of this aspect of life. Actually, I’ve heard many times a dialogue like: “– I don’t want this, or I don’t want that, and I don’t understand why I receive exactly what I don't want.”

What I’ve chosen to see as absolutely fascinating is exactly the fact that we, humans, are more tempted to highlight and discuss about what we don’t want, instead of what we want. Probably because our brain has a very specific construction to see in the first moment the negative, and just after that to acknowledge the positive. Or, in order to reverse the situation, this means a lot of work with us.

If you will pay attention to the ones around you, no matter if we talk about friends and family, colleagues, collaborators, and so on, you will most likely see the pattern of using the “no” word. In the same time, has been discovered that our brain doesn’t assimilate the word “no” and it will give you the result by cutting that word. For example, if you say: “I don’t want to work in a team with gossip mean people”, the brain will rearrange the meaning and for it will be: “I want to work in a team with gossip mean people.” And this is what you’ll get.

So what would be the proper alternative to this situation? Again, starting to stay in contact with the positive as much as possible, so to say. So let’s re-write (and think ;)) the example above: “I want/wish/aspire/desire to work and be part of a team compound by extraordinary, genuine, good, trustworthy people.” Can you feel the difference? Yes, I know it’s a matter of exercise, and many times you will feel that making this kind of “exercise” with yourself it can be really challenging. But again, being more aware of this and staying on the positive part as much as possible, you will very soon see other great results in your life. It is a matter of perspective and balance.

We are the sum of our thoughts and expectations, and we will receive exactly what we expect. But please be aware of the action. Because the action is the fuel that put your life on the road, but like every other “car” (life), it needs to be driven by its driver. Maybe once in a while you will need to change the “fuel brand” or one of the “wheels” from your life-car, or paying attention to the “passengers” that keep you company. But all in all, remember to keep going. There is nothing more rewarding than taking action instead of zero action.

And remember, what you expect, is what you get, and one day, all your hard work will pay off :)

Smiling – an international language

Hello in a New Wonderful Year everyone.

As promised here (to myself included ;)), I’ve come back with my first article on 2017. And what better way to start (or restart) this writing and photographic journey then not with an article about…smiling? I hope this will give us a good boost for the year that has just started.

Have you’ve noticed that every time we interact with people that have an extraordinary smile on their face, somehow we receive that great positive vibe? Or, in the contrary, when we stay in front of someone that is sober almost all the time, we have a negative feeling? Of course that not accidentally I’ve mentioned “almost all the time”. Because after all, it’s a matter of situation, relativity and perspective. But I bet you have felt these kinds of emotional states, even if you maybe weren’t aware of them.

Smiling it’s a great gesture that can transmit so many things and definitely make our day better. It is said that even when you don’t want to smile because you are in a bad mood, even if you just try to put a smile on your face, you will “trick” your brain into believing that something good it’s about to happen and you will start believing that it will. So why don’t give it a try?

Along the way, I had the chance to interact with great people. In this way I’ve learned to recognize in one person different types of smiling, so to speak. One for friends and family, one for business, one when you had a hard day, one when you are relaxed, one to cover emotions, and so on and so forth. And I’ve started to realize more and more that this wonderful gesture of smiling it’s something that everybody can have. No matter the social or economic background, what job position one has, the money one has in his or her bank account, no matter the happy moments or the sad days.

And why not enjoying more every smiling moment? It definitely makes our days better, no matter if we are in the office or in a park, being in a meeting, listening to music, taking pictures or creating a report. So imagine that true genuine smile, which shows you a wonderful and extraordinary soul. Yours or the one's of the people around you, no matter the language you speak or where you were born.

So I hope you have a sparkling New Year, with good and shiny people by your side! This is similar to a message recently received that made me feel very grateful and to smile instantly :)